This may be news to women, but sometimes men just don’t feel like having sex. Research shows that stress, especially financial stress, will strip a man’s libido down to a limp bone.  Since sex and money are so tied to a man’s self esteem, if one is not working, it’s only logical the other is suffering too.

The thing about being in a relationship is that sometimes you have to give when you don’t feel like it.  Women know that one real well.  With sex though, it’s a little easier for women to give and not be totally into it. It’s only nature.  Men have to get it up to give it up.  So what does a man do to have sex when he’s not in the mood?

Eat something.  Food will help bring up your strength and renew energy. If you already ate, have some dessert.  If you had your bath before your meal, eat it off each other.

Take a Bath.  Not a shower, a bath does wonders to suck stress right out of your body.  Add apple cider vinegar or baking soda to help detoxification.  Touch yourself while you’re in there and see what may spark up.  If you do erectile enhancement pills, this is the time to take one.

Have her massage you.  She wants something from you, right?  Put her to work.  Hopefully, you have some scented oils just hanging around the house.  No?  Well then use whatever you have.  Any old lotion will do.  Direct her to massage the special areas that are important to you.

Cuddle and stroke each other.  If it doesn’t put you to sleep after all the other relaxation techniques, it will help to establish some intimacy.  Put your worries out of your mind and see what comes up.

Let’s say now you got it going on in the bed.  Focus on being in the moment of having great sex and not what your bank account looks like.  Staying in the beautiful moments of sensual sex may help you remember that sex is a great stress reliever.

Keep in mind that longer lasting sex actually has healing properties.  This doesn’t include quickies or masturbating porn sessions.  I’m talking about conscious, loving interactions that last for a while.  Sex releases healing enzymes in the body that contribute to physical well-being. They can strip away the toll stress is silently taking on your body.

So now the secret is out.  Men are not always up for the sexual cause.  These tools show how last longer during sex when you don’t feel like it.  You’ll get more out of it than it may seem at the time.  She’ll appreciate the effort and give it gracefully when it’s her turn to not feel like it.